Can’t believe it’s the New Year already … A brand new slate, waiting to be written on. “The future is unwritten.” I love the notion that each day is a fresh beginning, a chance to start over. And a brand new year is just as exciting, if not even more so.
It is also a bit daunting. I always feel like a new year should symbolise some sort of shift, onward and upward as they say I guess. But also, I feel that with each new year, I should be relinquishing some of my grief and guilt from the past. At least, I’m hoping so!
The song Rockabye by Clean Bandits has been drumming on my heart beats.
Call it love and devotion
Call it the mom’s adoration (foundation)
A special bond of creation, hah
For all the single mums out there
Going through frustration
Clean Bandit, Sean-Da-Paul, Anne-marie, sing, make them hearShe works the night, by the water
She’s gonna stress, so far away from her father’s daughter
She just wants a life for her baby
All on her own, no one will come
She’s got to save him (daily struggle)She tells him “ooh love”
No one’s ever gonna hurt you, love
I’m gonna give you all of my love
Nobody matters like you (stay up there, stay up there)
She tells him “your life ain’t gonna be nothing like my life (straight)
You’re gonna grow and have a good life
I’m gonna do what I’ve got to do”
I am not a single mum but I did think about what I would do if I had gotten pregnant with my ex. I feel that bringing up a child in a safe environment where they feel loved and cared for is so important, if not the most important part of being a parent.And I am sure, that if I had got pregnant, I would have done a fine job of bringing up my baby without his father’s help.
I love in the song that the lyrics are strongly affirming the love of the single mum and her desire to provide for her child as best she can. From my friends who are single parents I know them to be the most loving, caring parents – more than capable of providing for their children and ensuring their needs are met.
I guess I just want to encourage those of you who are in abusive relationships and have children and you worry about leaving your partner cause then you’ll be alone that you can make it as a solo parent. And remember that you don’t have to do it alone. You are never alone, so many of us have been in the same situation or are in an abusive relationship right now. There are organisations like Women’s Refuge that can help you. You are stronger and braver than you could ever imagine! xx
I guess my new years resolution is to be safe and stay safe and protect the safety of those closest to me. That’s all I can ask for in the end.
Love you all, stay safe, Christy xxx